“In American culture, monogamy isn’t the only norm when it comes to relationships; it’s expected that everyone wants to and should be part of a couple. The fact of the matter is that some people who identify as non-monogamous or polyamorous prefer not to be in a “partnered” relationship, however they define that for themselves. In general, people who practice solo polyamory may date and have non-primary partners, but they don’t want to co-habitate, mingle finances and resources, raise children, or make important life decisions with a partner.”
- Tristan Taormino, “Solo Polyamorists” (on Naked City, where she’s posting stories about non-traditional relationships each week this month)
ASSIGNMENT: Make a fake track list from a fake album from a recording artist you like.
Second up Thieves’ Songs, Nick Cave & The Bad Seeds
- It Ain’t Tonight
- Love Down The Devil
- Whiskeyman
- The Ballad of Josephine (you know, that “tilting at meat, they’re tilting at meat!” song)
- Papa’s Back
- Devil Love
- Baby’s Gone Up the River (Again)
- Her Tender Blood
Briana, this only means that you have to come to San Francisco for the Gatsby Afternoon this September: an entire period afternoon garden party on an historic estate, and you can mix gin cocktails in the sunshine in nothing but silk crepe, surrounded by classic motor cars and a few hundred others, and dance to a live jazz orchestra til you fall down — or a swell young guy scoops you up, either or.[via Art Deco]
I think I’ve fallen in love. With a blog. I want to ride in a Model T with it! Drink Aviations, and dance the Charleston with it all night long!
That special blog is Art Deco, and it really caters to my inner-flapper. Lots of glamorous snaps & ads from yesteryear. Lots of Louise Brooks, Anna Mae Wong, and Clara Bow.
The pin-up flair this ad has is quite appealing. (Plus, that blonde totally looks like Goldfrapp.)
… then now it must be hemorrhaging under his influence…
The Guy? Doesn’t think I’m crazy. Actually thinks I’m not crazy enough. Whether it’s my ardor for corrective public policy or my completely unjustified crying fits, he has a pretty amazing threshold for what he considers “still spoonable.”
“Ja’ estas na chura, e’ melhor ficor molhada.”
- “You’re already standing in the rain, you may as well get wet” Loosely translated from Portuguese- a Madam’s advice to a stripper. (via kimberleecline)
“What also bothers me about this is that the media tends to only focus and be comfortable talking about women bloggers if they’re a Mommy Blogger, or, if they’ve been involved in prostitution or are sex writers. There is a huge, diverse community of women bloggers, but as far as people the mainstream media outlets are concerned - we’re either whores, ex whores, or mothers.”
- DollyMix: How in the world is the concept of Mommy Bloggers still blowing people’s minds? (I’m not digging it up, but there was a rather strange interview I did in 2006 on the same — how mommybloggers and sex bloggers are comrades)
Actually, this too has been up for debate. Some believe the blog and book on which this series is based are pure fiction, written by someone with no experience in the sex industry. [Belle de Jour] writes pointy-headed prose about “the explicit commodification of sex” being “preferable to the hawthorn thicket of modern relationships”, and discusses the works of Germaine Greer, Goethe and Pablo Neruda with clients before disrobing for a spot of hectic how’s your father.(via)
“If you can watch the amount of sex Carrie, Charlotte and Miranda have without shouting ‘harlot’ at the screen; if you’re not horrified by the idea of women having professional jobs, living alone, talking about sex, drinking alcohol, having children out of wedlock, experimenting with lesbianism, owning vibrators and all the other stuff they do, then you support a level of freedom for women that is a very long way off for a majority of women in today’s world.”
- Kate Smurthwaite - quoted in this article (via gauntlet)