The bubble — (blogging about) it’s so hot right now.
We don’t judge if you haven’t been paying attention to the bubble, but you’ve been reaping its benefits. It’s okay, users. No, I’m sorry, content makers. We’ll still respect you even if the thing ends up bursting its unseemly tech juices in the [...]
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Introducing the Bubble Hotties: Boys & Girls Hot Beyond Their Means
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And I’m Looking Forward to Getting to Know You, Now That We’ve Fucked
sifted this Salon piece on gay vs. straight dating from 2001 to the top of her del.icio.us links, and so this must bear repeating in some now-ish way:See, a straight woman says, “I’m sorry, but I can’t have sex with you until I get to know you.”A gay man says, “I’m sorry, but I can’t get to know you until I have sex with you.”There’s a (and god, I wish there were a less pretentious word for this) frisson to near-anonymous sex, where each party is moving in on their target with a totally shameless motivation — fueled by desire, one hopes, and not just too much fancy booze…. Are they hunting some more “authentic” self as they audition future partners pre-bedtime, or are they maybe just holding out for a nice dinner first?Or is it that knowing based purely on sex is seen as somehow one-dimensional?
“Transparency is for politicians, not for lovers.”
Susie Bright interviews sex & relationships psychologist (no, don’t run screaming) Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic, and it’s too good not to quote them both excessively…Esther argues that erotic passion— to a certain but critical degree— is built upon distance and ambiguity. In her view, transparency is for politicians, not for lovers.”It’s often assumed,” Esther writes, “that intimacy and trust must exist before sex can be enjoyed, but for many women and men, intimacy— more precisely, the familiarity inherent in intimacy— actually sabotages sexual desire.